Independent People Stand Out by These 7 Typical Behaviors, According to Psychologists

Independent People Stand Out by These 7 Typical Behaviors, According to Psychologists

Becoming independent is one of those goals that people generally pursue as they grow older. But beyond financial independence, how can we tell if we are truly independent individuals?

Any parent likely has the goal of fostering independence in their child as part of their parenting objectives. From their earliest years, children gradually learn to manage on their own to eventually become fully autonomous. But when can we really consider ourselves independent? Is independence achieved when we can meet our basic needs alone? When we leave the family home? When we make our own choices? And can one be “too” independent? Here’s how to recognize yourself as a true independent and better understand the level of autonomy in others.

Characteristics of an Independent Personality

Of course, you can consider yourself independent as soon as you are materially self-sufficient. But independence is not solely about the most visible and tangible aspects of our lives. Being independent also affects our personality.

"Independence is the ability to be self-sufficient or to take care of oneself," summarizes Amy Marschall, a clinical psychologist, for Very Well Mind. Furthermore, Shoba Sreenivasan and Linda E. Weinberger, both clinical psychologists, explained for Psychology Today that gaining independence helps us "learn, explore, and evolve."

Indeed, independent personalities are not afraid of solitude. Spending time alone not only shows that they do not depend on others, but it also allows them to step away from external interactions and pressures to clarify their feelings, values, and thoughts, reminds Marissa Moore, a therapist, in PsychCentral. This is why they have no trouble:

• Expressing their opinions and needs
• Setting clear boundaries with those around them
• Making decisions on their own
• Taking responsibility
• Taking initiative
• Knowing who they are and what they want
• Trusting themselves

The Overdose of Independence

Unfortunately, like many personality traits considered to be strengths, when independence is taken to the extreme, it can become a problem, says Amy Marschall. This is what is referred to as hyper-independence. "The need to have other people in our lives to turn to for comfort, support, and security is essential," remind Shoba Sreenivasan and Linda E. Weinberger. We all depend on others to provide the strength, motivation, endurance, and security necessary to pursue our goals and our independence.

Independence can be harmful when it pushes you to always go it alone, to do everything by yourself, to rely on no one, or to never trust anyone. In the long run, hyper-independence can be a risk factor for burnout and can make developing personal connections difficult.